So you and your lady friend like to play with BDSM in the bedroom. Maybe it’s a little bondage and maybe it’s a little S&M. No matter what it is, you both enjoy it and it gets your jollies off. Now, though, you want it to extend to your day lives. She’s into it and it all sounds like a fun time, but is it actually possible? Is there anything you can really do when you want to sext with an edge?

Of course you can!

Yes you can and it’s a lot of fun! There’s your answer, thanks for reading! Have fun!

Not doing it yet?

Oh, you wanted more information? Of course you did, sorry. I got excited thinking about it and suddenly had a few messages to send.

Ease into it

Anyway, you’re going to want to ease into the whole thing. You can’t just go whole hog like you do in the bedroom. You always have to be wary of your surroundings and keep your sexting private. That means not ordering the other person to send a crotch shot when you know they’re on the bus. Keep things simple at first and figure out exactly what you can fit into your daily lives.

Hand out tasks

I don’t know what happens in your bedroom. I wouldn’t mind knowing about the good stuff, though. That’s not what this is about, though. The fact of the matter is that I don’t know who’s on top in your BDSM. Maybe you like to switch off. I don’t care. What matters is that the person on top gives the person on the bottom tasks to carry out. Have them report on it in their sexts. Keep in on the DL and have fun with it when you can.

Wear something sexy

Another thing you can do is wear something sexy and naughty under the clothes. That’s the kind of thing that sexting was invented for. The two of you are the only ones who know about it and you share it whenever you can.

That’s how you BDSM through sext!

So you’ve been texting the same girl for a while and you want to bring things to the next level with her. The problem is that you’re not sure if she’s the kind of girl who would want to sext chat. You’re going to be running the risk of being run out of town and disowned by all your friends if you just go full speed ahead. Then there’s the other hand. You can miss out on something awesome if you don’t take a chance and see what’s up.

Sext Chat Fun

Don’t despair. We’ve all found ourselves in this position. Here’s what you’re going to do:

Feel Her Out

You’re going to feel her out first. The last thing you want to do is flat out ask her if she wants to sext. That’s gross and will dry her out faster than the Mojave Desert. It’s going to kill the mood immediately and your budding, perverted relationship may never recover. What you’re going to do instead is be funny about it. Ask her how many guys she’s talking dirty to when she’s talking to you. Obviously, you want the answer to be zero, but it’s the way that she answers that you’re looking for. If it’s something like “Eew, gross, none!” then it may not be meant to be. She clearly doesn’t look kindly on sext chat with one hand. If it’s something like “Wouldn’t you like to know ;)” then you’re in! It’s a non-answer, but she’s clearly up to play.

Start by Being Funny

Now that you have a good answer, start slowly. Be funny about it. Send her naughty messages that you can write off as a joke at first. She’s going to start playing along at some point. As soon as that happens, it’s on! When she’s playful with you, hit her back with some extra naughtiness. Chances are very good that she’s going to respond in kind.

It’s on!

Okay, it’s on! You now have a new sext chat partner. You’ve broken through the barrier and felt her out. Now it’s time to talk nasty while you feel yourselves up!